"SORRY-Phobia" - Is' Sorry' such a diffcult word?
I happened to come across a street argument in MG Road today. Something that we come across all the time these days in Bangalore. The whole argument was because one of the guys refused to say "Sorry".It was clear to every soul there, including our pal (sorry phobia infected), that he was at fault(one of the minor accidents caused because of sneaking.).But no he wouldnt utter the word "SORRY".
This got me into thinking !!!!!
Such an encounter is not alien to us, not just in traffic ,but in the everyday life. What is that , which really prevents someone from apologizing, when its evident to oneself that (s)he owes an apology ?Is SORRY so priceless ? Or is it the EGO ? Or is it the latest trend in our Silicon Valley?
Whatever is the reason , it just re-inforces the fact that the our Cosmo Bangalore is just getting from bad to worse .The latest trend in the city is to be an irresponsible and unaccountable citizen, who likes to live a life according to his whim and fancy . Whether its overtaking in the wrong lanes causing a traffic hazard , or breaking lines and queues and rules everywhere, Bangaloreans(I include everyone who has been in Bangalore for atleast 2 years in this category) are starting to set new standards for unaccountability!
I agree that if one goes overboard with "Thank You" and "Sorry", these words lose their value but when required we ought to rememer what courtesy is !
I just wish people here start thinking a little beyond software , IT , etc etc and start paying attention to some basics of being a responsible human being!In our quest to learn all the three-four-five lettered abuses , lets not forget the first few words we learnt!
This post, unlike my previous blog bug, is completely impulsive but its also an awakening(for me) which is so much needed in "Namma Bengaluru" (I still prefer Bangalore:-)).
4 comments:
This is very true Rashmi. And I guess it is not bangalore that has this problem. Everywhere ppl are becoming rude :(
As a self-confessed sorry-phile ( does such a term even exist? ) myself, I must admit to sometimes using them i.e sorries and thanks in excess, with strangers, to make them realise the paucity of their usage of these two words. And when I say words, i don't mean just the words but also the meaning and true regret, apology implied in them. It rarely had an effect. Most people, including good friends, would just laugh it off and go on as before.
Thats just the way the world is becoming, I guess - the adage "Nice guys finish last" holding true more than ever, with 'nice' here connoting polite behaviour. And since this feeling is reinforced from childhood,and by every facet of society, most people see it as weakness to even be seen using such words, let alon the macho junta who deem them a threat to their ...ahem...masculinity.
I agree that over-usage might rob the words of their value, even if meant sincerely. However, that does not justify under-usage at all. Sadly, thats what capitalist, rat-race-driven societies seem to be promoting, seen especially in cities. Rural areas, while uncultured on the surface, still retain the so-called manners and charm of the "old world" with little or no prompting. Is it a sign of the times? Is it, even, a sign of the corrosive effect of capitalism and each-for-himself, eat-or-be-eaten philosophies in vogue today? I wonder....
Its too long.. shorten up ur blogs :)
May be thats one of the reasons for IT industry to concentrate on COMMUNICATION training for their employees. :)
I agree that using the word Sorry is very rare.I also believe its the same with word "Thank you" also. I believe the reason is egoism most of the time or superiority complex that exists in people.
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